It is important to do this when you can be alone and not distracted by having to please or perform for your partner. So find a comfortable place where you can be alone—your bedroom or bathroom—and a time when you won't be interrupted. Undress slowly and gently stroke your whole body. Then focus on the most sensitive areas—your neck, breasts, thighs, genitals or any other area that feels good to you.
Use different kinds of touch, soft and light, firm and strong. Try moistening your hands with oil, lotion or soap. Pay attention to the sensations you feel and discover which ones are most pleasurable.
Learning which kinds of touch feel best will help you heighten your sensation and will give you information to share with your partner.
If You're Having Trouble with Erections Since some drugs can temporarily interfere with the ability to have erections, you may want to ask your physician about possible side effects of your treatment.
Physical and Emotional Causes If you can get an erection by masturbating or you wake up with an erection in the night or morning, it is most likely that anxiety or "trying too hard" is the cause, and it's not a physical problem. If you are not sure of the cause, ask your doctor to refer you to a urologist or sex therapist for evaluation and treatment.
